The breastfeeding debate; To nurse or not to nurse.
To nrse in public or not.
A 16 year old decides to start an anti breastfeeding group on facebook. She gets slammed and spammed and threatens to commit suicide over it. What would a 16 know about breastfeeding?
Grown women get very prickly over this subject. Probably because they are embarrassed because they were unable to provide for their child.
I am seriously Pro-Breast Feeding myself, and woman who don’t even try are pathetic beings. ” Oh I didn’t produce any Milk” ” I was too tired and my boyfriend wanted to feed the baby as well”
Every sad excuse under the sun. The truth of the matter is that they do feel inadequate,
As for breastfeeding in public , I have without any problems. Well only one from my own Mother.
She was embarrassed. She thought it was “wrong and a hippy thing to do”. My elder sister told anyone who would liisten that she was going to breastfed because it was natural and would go on to speel the benefits. She lasted 3 days, and quit before her milk even came in. Of course my mother sang her praises about breastfeeding and even when she quit it was the ‘best thing to do’
Five years later I gave birth and I was a ” Hippy and a nasty freak” When my son self weened at nine months, she was overjoyed. When I gave birth to another son nearly two years later. She positively hit the roof when I fed him over 18 months. To avoid anymore arguments over it when I visited her home when he was about nine months I brought a bottle of expressed milk. She fed him and all the while she was telling me that it was great that I had switched him to bottle. When I told her iit was indeed breastmilk and I had expressed ,she nearly had a heart attack. Needless to say I have not spoken to that woman in nearly two years.
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Yes, I know this is your website, which includes your opinions and ideas and beliefs. I understand that you are a pro for breastfeeding in public. I am, as well. People have feelings and if you wouldn’t say all of this offline then don’t say it online. Or if you wouldn’t say it in this manner offline, don’t say it in this manner online.
“Which means that women doing everyday real-life things (like feeding a baby, or otherwise having a physical, usable body in a non-sexual way) are “gross” and deserving of a putdown. (‘Cause being a mom is so non-sexy! Eewww! 
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Breastfeeding a baby is natural. ?
“Well done. Your mother risked nipple confusion because she was a prude. Nipple confusion, caused by the totally different suckling method between bottles and the breast, that can cause a baby to totally reject the breast. And what happens if she rejects the breast? No more breast milk. Yay, score one to the formula companies!”
No need to say it so condescendingly. There are ways to un-confuse your baby and let them breastfeed. But even if you don’t like the breast pump. You can do it once a week for about 3 hrs so that if you have to go out to a restaurant or the library or any place you can take a bottle with you. That is what was done with me when I was a baby and that is what I am doing with my child. If Erin (my daughter) gets confused between the bottle and my nipple and wants to suck on the bottle more then I’ll start bottle feeding her at an early age. There is no problem with that. It is completely natural and there is no harm to the baby besides needing braces when it grows older. What is so bad about formula’s anyway? There are some formulas out there that have the nutrients and vitamins a baby needs to develop. Eventually, you’ll have to stop breastfeeding because either the kid gets to old or you just are tired of breastfeeding the kid. So, no matter what, you’ll never get rid of that frustration you and your baby will have when switching from breast to bottle.
“Have you ever tried to make an infant hold in their pee? It’s like asking them to wait for milk. It’s impossible. They have the need and the desire to urinate (or drink) now now now. They are not adults. Applying adult logic such as “suck it up, I’m to prude to watch you pee!” to a baby or a small child is just as stupid as “suck it up, I’m too prude to watch you eat!” hence why babies have diapers (nappies). So, while you can hold your full bladder, or your empty stomach for “a few short hours”, a baby cannot hold it for that long.”
You can train the baby to go for hours at a time if you ignore the cries for food when you just fed them 3 hours ago. Yes, it hurts as a mother, but it is also easier when the baby can go to 5-6 hours without needing to be fed. It was frustrating for me at first to do this, but after I was finished, I am happy at the result. Erin will sleep for 5-6 hours at a time without needing to be fed. Which lets me sleep 5-6 hours without being woken up by a whine or a cry from her. We are sleeping better which is improving our moods.
“My baby’s needs are more important to me than your stupid, immature objections to a woman breastfeeding.”
If that is so, then just ignore it. That is always an option. Although, you cannot take back what you have posted you can apologize for being so condescending about this. I mean, just because you are for breastfeeding in public doesn’t mean that you should just yell at her. I mean that never changes anyones mind. What if you were Jennifer? Would you like this? Probably not. Please, think of it in both shoes. I am not saying I have not gotten into stupid fights like these but I am saying that you can resolve this by saying you are sorry in your last blog and closing comments on this blog (maybe even deleting this blog entirely). There are other options than fighting about things. I know you know this, but please, take them into consideration when replying to comments and other blogs that people write. Jennifer was never there to be the butt of ridicule neither were you. Now, she has stopped posting about you and you need to stop posting anything about her as well. If you just unfollow her on twitter and delete her on facebook and just stop looking on her website, you guys will be fine. You are not forced to talk to anyone. It was an option you had from the beginning.
“If you don’t like it, look away.”
I totally agree with this statement. I think that people should look away if they don’t like watching something. But, at the same time, they shouldn’t have to. Like Jennifer said, breastfeeding and sex are both natural. What if people were allowed to have sex in public. We would probably be having this exact same conversation. You and I would be against it though. She (Jennifer) wasn’t saying that people need to have sex NOW NOW NOW. She was just saying that sex would be opposed if it were allowed in public, as well. I totally agree with some of the things that she has said as well.